Lost faith in humanity

I realized today while looking at my blog that my forgiveness post was horribly vague which may breed misunderstanding. Anyone who has known me for any length of time will be able to tell you what you get is what you see. I rarely if ever lie to people because I believe in the golden rule. I do value honesty even when it hurts. That being said because I am that way when I do lie I feel horribly guilty and will confess unless the people I lied to are lieing to me... So in that post I'm referring to 1 or 2 lies not thousands. To clarify the other parts since moving from my apt in Calgary everyone I've lived with has stolen from me... Even while in eastern Canada I was robbed repeatedly by people I thought cared for me and I came back home to Alberta to my grandmother being robbed repeatedly by her border. When we both thought we had escaped such oppression and moved to reddeer our new landlords in the house we rented went thru all our things repacked what was in boxes all mixed up from the ordely way it was packed and happily took what ever they heard us saying we cared about, some things ,even those lost in eastern canada ty 4 that, but not all ... have been returned which i appreaciate , even tho they are now damaged and chemicals that were put in bathroom products have caused festering sores to erupt on our skin. If everything was returned minus the food, I would be even more grateful,  I dont understand what the point of all this is. Theft is one of my hugest peeves, I am not a greedy person; 9 times out of ten if someone asks for something and I don't need it I'm happy to make their day by letting them have it. What pisses me off is having the choice taken away from me especially since things I value which have significant memories may seem like garbage or unimportant to others. All our devices and accounts have been hacked in pretty much the same manner people just barging in taking what we care about and destroying what ever they want to. I am grateful that not everything is gone and I still don't see what any of this will accomplish beyond making us loose faith that good people still exist. I thought some of it was because I spurned the borders sexual advances so I had hoped with his death that the hacking would stop. Unfortunately it seems that those I had thought better of were collaborating with the evil border so even tho he is gone they are not. I have no solutions, I apologize to my fans and any who miss me, I have lost a lot of faith in humanity but I do try to still believe in those who are sincere even though with all the crazy making its hard to know who is. Huge hugs. Ww

P.s crazy making makes it harder to be happy in the pants just in case you didn't know. And you can Google crazy making BTW.

P.p.s I also believe if people even hackers masterbated more that the world would be a happier place. The hackers can't take that away lol. Tho if they lost their hands from stealing it would be more difficult for them to do so.

We need more white hat programming cause the black hats r winning

I responded to an article on effective wireless networking but am not sure it will be posted cause it kinda counters the original article message which was meant to be reassuring. So I decided to share it here as this is essentially what I was experiencing when I was having all those hacker issues at my gigs before I sent my computer in and was gone from SL for over 6 months. 

"I think the reality is that security is an illusion to some extent.  It seems like as tech becomes more consumer friendly it exposes vulnerabilitys which haven't entirely been solved. Wps is tech in your router that's supposed to make it quicker and easier for visitors to connect to your network great huh yeah for hackers too cause they can eventually break thru it by using a program which resemble s a battering ram. Once connected to your network there are programs hackers use which can spoof your Mac address from the attackers device allowing them to pretend to be u and happily use up your data plan as I expensively discovered.  There are ways to turn the attackers devices into man in the middle devices that sit between your device and your router or service provider so the hacker gets access to everything sent to u and can choose weather to let that email Or sms from someone thru or not or even change the content of it. They can arp poison your network and hijack your session s to access your personal log ins I discovered a year before heartbleed was announced and people didn't believe me they thought it wasnt possible lol. I know all this cause it all happened to me and the person doing it was so confident they let enough slip that I eventually put it all together. I think the reality is that tech needs more white hat programming out there as it seems that the black hats r winning currently. With the programming becoming simpler to use for the average Joe even the panty Sniffer you have as a neighbor can use it to make your life miserable if they feel so inclined sadly. So my advice no wps routers and look up arp poisoning , denial of service attacks and Mac flooding to see how u can TRY to defend yourself and change your passwords frequently. hugs "

Ww

informative related article ARP

I was stalked but i survived

This article completely describes everything I went thru when I tried to report john and kory wollmans activities to the police and everything I suffered from while dealing with it. John died last week and Kory appears to have gone back to his own life so logicly I should be over it right? Sadly the healing process is long so I ask patience to those who felt I pushed them away and those who continue to experience my mistrust of people. I will never quite be the same but I'm trying. I don't know if this will effect my ability to perform, I hope not. Just please don't take it personally as its my baggage so I accept responsibility for it. I also seriously hope it doesnt happen to any of you or yours.

Xoxox wytchie

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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/soraya-chemaly/when-it-comes-to-harassme_b_4577719.html

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When It Comes to Harassment and Stalking, the Virtual World IS Real
Posted: 01/10/2014 5:34 pm
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Cyber Bullying

Earlier this week, Amanda Hess wrote an in-depth article, "Why Women Aren't Wanted on the Internet," about cyber-harassment, the gross majority of which is targeted at women. Several other media, followed up, including Talking Points Memo, in which Jill Filipovic recounted years-long personal experience with online abuse. I do not know one woman engaged in public life who has not, to varying degrees, experienced harassment inflected with sexism and violence, usually deliberately designed with the intent to silence. But, this harassment and the stalking that often accompanies it is targeted not just at outspoken, public figures, but girls and women who are not publicly engaged.

A division between the "real world" and the virtual one has never existed where women are concerned and yet, this idea, enshrined in technology as a "disembodiment" pervades our attitudes, laws, social media policies and law enforcement. When women engage online, we do not have the sex-based luxury of feeling securely disembodied. New facial recognition software will only heighten the ability of harassers and stalkers to find and stalk people.

The fact is, there is nowhere that women can go to be taken seriously when this happens. Service providers are not responsible, law enforcement is often ridiculously ill-equipped (what is Twitter?), and even friends and family don't know how to help beyond giving advice about how to "stay safe."

No girl or woman has the luxury of assuming there is a disconnect between the virtual and the "real." Especially given statistics about sexual assault and intimate partner violence.This concept of safe distance and space as protection is a thoroughly male norm. A real world sex-based safety gapis reflected in the fact that 75 percent of online abuse is targeted at women. So, for example, in the United States, 89 percent of men surveyed feel that they can safely walk at night in their neighborhoods. That number is only 62 percent for women. A University of Maryland study revealed that feminine usernames in online forums averaged 100 sexually explicit or threatening messages a day to the 3.7 averaged by masculine ones. From the moment of its inception, the Internet has amplified this gap. It extends "real world" violence against women and regularly enables actual physical, in addition to hard-to-quantify, psychological harm. Even assessment of that harm is gendered. The criteria for evaluating danger and harm is imminent violence. This means that genuine emotional and psychological injury as well as loss of speech, income and free movement are all trivialized.

Filipovic's online abuse began when she was a law student. It began with a crush of rape and death threats and spilled over into the "real" world when, years later, a man she did not know, who'd been targeting her online, showed up in person. The realities of stalking speak most clearly to how inseparable the "real" and "virtual" are. Every year more than 6 million people in the United States are stalked. According to the CDC's National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS), one in six women and one in 19 men are stalked during their lifetimes. Less conservative estimates that define stalking as a reflection of fear felt by targets makes those numbers 1 in 4 women and one in 13 men. The most recent Bureau of Justice statistics reveal the following:

46 percent of stalking victims experience at least one unwanted contact per week.
11 percent of victims are stalked for 5 years or more.
Divorced or separated people have significantly higher risk -- 34 per 1,000 individuals.
Male (37 percent) and female (41 percent) stalking victims are as likely equally to go to the police.
1 in 4 stalking victims report cyber stalking, for example 83 percent get emails from their stalkers.
46 percent of stalking victims feel fear from not knowing what will happen next.
Almost 75 percent of stalking victims know their stalkers.
More than 50 percent of stalking victims lose five or more days from work.
People between the ages of 18-24 are the most likely to be stalked.
College and university women, who make up the bulk of victims, experience stalking in multivariate ways, but one of the most common is electronically.
According to a nationwide study conducted in 2000, 13 percent of college women reported being stalked. An earlier study reported that between 27 percent and 35 percent of female students and between 15 percent and 18 percent of male students are stalked.
Last summer, Campus Safety Magazine ran a series of articles about stalking, which they called a "silent epidemic" on campuses.
"Real" stalking is integrated seamlessly with "virtual" stalking, specifically defined by Take Back the Tech as: "(repeatedly) sending threats or false accusations via email or mobile phone, making threatening or false posts on websites, stealing a person's identity or data or spying and monitoring a person's computer and internet use. Sometimes the threats can escalate into physical spaces."

Anti-stalking legislation -- which differs state-by-state and across borders -- requires that, in order to be recognized, a stalker demonstrate a repeated pattern of harassing behavior. Statues are often deliberately broad and take into account responses of the victim. In addition, law enforcement often fails to treat the crime seriously, leaving targets to fend for themselves. In order to stay say, people move, change their jobs, replace all of the online identities, change their phone numbers. It's expensive, burdensome, anxiety-provoking and, often, useless.

These two factors -- the broad nature and the question of victim responses -- make a false separation between "virtual" and "real" so impactful for women. Online threats are often treated as jokes, dismissed as "not credible," and the harm minimized, even though the impact of stalking can be significant. Women who live public lives are often stalked, sometimes by cyber mobs making explicit, graphic and violent threats. Without fail they are belittled for expressing anxiety or for changing their behavior as the result of fear.  When Cambridge University student debater Rebecca Meredith became the target of a vicious and misogynistic online mob assault in which her rape potential was debated publicly, a writer in the Spectator made a point of mocking her publicly for making a "fuss about 'misogyny.'" Silly girl.

Cases where victims do not know their stalkers often take place entirely online, as in the recent examples of UConn student Carolyn Luby, Trista Hendren, Mary Beard, Adria Richards, Anita Saarkeesian, and Meredith, all of whom experienced cyberstalking as the result of speaking out against sexism.

Stalking has serious impact on victims who suffer from stress, fear, anxiety, depression, loss of sleep, and other health and psychological trauma. They often change their behavior, work, and recreational activities. The National Institute of Justice (NIJ) reports that when victims know their stalkers they are three times as likely to report these symptoms.

In addition, there are economic consequences as well. Victims often miss work, lose jobs, cannot take advantage of promotions. NIJ studies found that victims who work, "experienced twice as many stalking tactics and were stalked three times longer than unemployed victims." Stalkers often compromise their target's ability to work by harassing and lying to coworkers, vandalizing workplaces and other similar tactics designed to destabilize their targets.

Lastly, targets also experience property loss or incur expenses (such as security systems, altered travel needs) and the costs to society are high. One study referenced by the NIJ concluded that intimate partner stalking cost $342 million annually in 2003 dollars. Researchers explained that this was a significant underestimate given that several significant cost categories were not included.

Stalking Risk Profile: Guidelines for the Assessment and Management of Stalkers, assesses stalkers on the basis of their prior relationships with their targets: ex-intimates, strangers, or acquaintances. Two-thirds of stalkers make harassing or threatening contact with their victims at least once per week the vast majority (78 percent) use more than one means of approach. In 20 percent of cases they use weapons. Fully one-third of stalkers have stalked before. Sometimes, when the stalking takes place online, one person stalks multiple targets simultaneously. Last week, a New York man was charged in Federal court with cyber-stalking 15 women across the country after a University of Michigan student approached the police with her concerns.

Stalking is tightly related to other forms of violence, especially domestic violence and sexual assault. As with these dimensions of sex and gender-based violence, early education, institutional intolerance and bystander intervention training are essential to reducing incidences of harm.

Women's Health, a project of the Department of Health and Human Services, has useful guidelines for steps to take if you think you are being stalked.

Portions of this post originally appeared April 30, 2013 in Policy Mic, There Should Be No Distinction Between Stalking and CyberStalking

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